Coaching Topics

Forgiveness - Anxiety - Depression - Weight Loss

Description of Each Topic

Forgiving: Since Forgiveness coaching is new, I have a more complete description further on in the information. Most people are familiar with forgiveness from a religious perspective, but we will be focusing on the new scientific research on forgiving.  You will find out what unforgiveness can do TO your body and what forgiveness can do FOR your body. In addition, you will learn how to forgive, through a process, and how you know when you have forgiven. This is a new therapy which will allow you to understand why forgiving is so important for YOU.

Anxiety: Anxiety is a normal part of living but there are times when anxiety goes over the top. You feel like it is out of your control, and it is debilitating and keeps you from doing the things you normally do. You may notice that you cannot sleep, you ache all over, your appetite has changed, and you don’t want to go to any social gatherings. Often you are so caught up in the future that you can’t think about today.

Depression: Who has not experienced depression? The activities that are going on in our world today are enough to depress anyone. Depression typically occurs at least once in a person’s life, but some people have multiple episodes. The feelings you have are beyond blue. You are having problems thinking, concentrating, and making decisions. The symptoms you are having are severe enough to cause a noticeable difference in your day-to-day activities.

Weight Loss: I tell people we are not calling it the d word. Who wants to think they are on a diet? Instead, we are going to think about things we can eat and do that will help us take off a few pounds. There are no special boxes of food you need to eat that you had a hard time getting down. We realize that everyone is not meant to be a Barbie, we just want to get to a healthy weight.

Frequently Asked Questions on Forgiveness

Do you have anyone in your life you have not forgiven?

Did you know unforgiveness can make you mentally or physically sick?

Do you know how to forgive?

How do you know you have forgiven?

Did you know unforgiveness can make you mentally or physically sick?

Do you have to reconcile when you forgive?

Do you have someone that hurt you when you were young that you have not forgiven?

Would you forgive if there were benefits for you?

Approximately 75% of our medical problems are from unforgiveness?

How can unforgiveness make us sick?


Research scientists have determined that holding on to anger, hate, bitterness, and thoughts of revenge could cause you to have physical and/or mental problems like headaches, back pain, high blood pressure, depression, heart attacks, anxiety, stroke, and the list goes on.

According to Dr. Fred Luskin forgiveness isn’t just practiced by those who are religious, and the recipients are not the only ones who reap the benefits. Please read the quote above one more time.

So, people practice forgiveness who are not religious? Also, the person you forgive is not the only one that reaps the benefits. 

For thousands of years, you and I have associated forgiveness with religion. I remember hearing about forgiving when I was in Sunday School, and my favorite story was Joseph and the coat of many colors. I enjoyed using all the different colored crayons to color his coat. I also remember the teacher telling me to ask Jesus to help you forgive and He can certainly do that.

What if there was another purpose for forgiving? Would you be more willing to forgive the friend that had a relationship with your spouse, if you knew that unforgiveness could cause you to be physically or mentally get sick? Or would you forgive the person who shot and killed your parents, while they were robbing their house?  Forgiveness looks a little different if you think about getting cancer or having a heart attack because of unforgiveness.

These horrific events cause us to be angry, bitter, stressed, hurt, and often cause us to think about getting revenge. I am glad most people only think about revenge, and don’t do it. These traumatic events are difficult for all of us to handle, but throughout our lives we cannot avoid them because we live in a world where there is an epidemic of unforgiveness. I have never in my life seen so much hate and anger. People have lost their lives because of peaceful demonstrations. Honestly, I do not think you can put the word peaceful with the word demonstration in the same sentence. There was nothing peaceful about the demonstrations.

The problem is people have no knowledge of what I am about to tell you. Eventually it will work its way to everyone if I have anything to do with it. The people I have explained this information to did not have a clue about what unforgiveness could be doing to them. Once someone finds out what unforgiveness it is doing to them, their perspective of forgiving changes. 

Research scientists had been studying forgiving for thirty-five years. Dr. Standiford classifies unforgiveness as a disease, because if you don’t forgive, it will make you sick and it will keep you sick. This classification has made its way into several medical books.

Today, forgiveness therapy is being used to treat diseases in some cancer centersWe need to address the emotional wounds and disorders because they can hinder a person’s willingness to pursue treatment as well as affect treatment according to Standiford. Dr. Michael Barry explains that “61% of patients have forgiveness issues, and more than half of those are severe.” 

Dr. Luskin says: “Perhaps the most comprehensive evidence was the connections between forgiveness and health focuses on mood.” Researchers measured emotional and psychological health outcomes. Therapy included forgiveness by measuring each patient’s levels of anger, anxiety, and depression. Results concluded from multiple studies that: Forgiveness elevates mood and increases optimism, while not forgiving is positively linked with depression, anxiety, and hostility.” 

Forgiveness is the one emotional response that has been proven by the scientific community to work. When we carry around unforgiveness it can cause our bodies to  this happens our body releases three hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and norephedrine, which give you a boost of energy to make it through the overwhelming situation. 

If you do not forgive this response will happen any time your body perceives something related to the trauma. Therefor anything you see, touch, hear, smell or taste will cause your body to response by going into fight or flight. Your subconscious recalls the event and hormones are release the same way as they were the first time. The problem is you are not actually going through a traumatic event, but your subconscious mind believes it is. This means all the hormones are released but they are not utilized. Over time they build up and your body becomes toxic. This is the cause of any mental or physical problem.

The only way to prevent this response from happening is by forgiving and the scientific community has proven forgiving will work. Do you want to live the healthiest you can? Are you ready to forgive?